I do not now recall how we got on this subject all those years ago, but mother shared this advice early one morning, while we were driving home from one of my gigs. She confided, “In order to be interesting you must first be interested in others”. I chewed this over for a few days and decided to give it a try. I began applying her theory and saw that it produced results and gave me a relaxed entrance into conversations. I found that it was a win-win formula for any person to try.
Should you find you want to truly connect at the next meeting, dinner party, convention, or the grocery store, it’s time to build those people skills. The simplest way to do this is to figure out what they’re interested in, by asking leading questions. Ask ones that require more than a yes or no response. Word your questions in order to have the person explain why they are curious about a certain topic, or the reason they enjoyed a recent sporting event. Inquire whether or not they have a special hobby. Talking about the weather, the work they do, or convincing them to share a story about growing up can break the ice. Take mental notes because the next time you get together you’ll be able to delve even further into the subjects that keep them happy. We learn when we listen. Life is filled with ongoing scenarios and dramas, and since we’re here on the planet for specific reasons, talking about our days offers us a basis for a real connection.
Showing sincere attention to someone is a nice way to say you care about them. It certainly is easier to make new friends. Your outward display of interest in others will enforce the bonds of budding relationships, which can last for years or even decades. So if you feel a little trepidation at your next party or gathering, use these tips and watch it work for you. Relax, smile and enjoy life!
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Your mother gives very sound advice. Please tell her that I tipped my hat in her direction.
Sadly, Mother is not here in the physical form. She was so funny and such a good role model, too. 😀
I am very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing her memory with us. You and she are appreciated.
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Thank you Beautiful Angie! 😀
Theresa, your mother definitely hit the nail square on the head. When one is genuinely interested in other people, one has a lifetime of wonderful and stimulating conversations to look forward to.
We’ve had so many of those over the past six years. Cheers!
Mama knows best, and your mom’s theory about the art of conversation is dead on.
This is certainly a sound strategy and one I’ve used many years. If you are interested in honing your social skills, Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends and Influence People” is essentially the Bible of interpersonal relations. Just remember, people are always more interested in themselves than you! 😀
Such an honest assessment Neil. I might have taken a look at some of his book decades ago. They like to reissue the good old positive thinking books now and then, because they remain valid and true advice.