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FairyDiscussion: Did you know the more you allow yourself to be interrupted, the more you actually develop a brain that can’t focus?

This was one of my replies:

“Yes. I can see why you might believe this, but the truth of the matter is that we’re moving so quickly, in our thinking, that when we find we have to stop abruptly and focus on a particular thing that we were not even thinking about … there is what I refer to as a brain blip. It’s those few seconds that seem like delayed minutes, when we have to apply the brakes and focus. Once done, we may resume at normal zoom, zoom, zoom speed.”

“I drain my brain … get quiet … become centered. I tune the world out. I’m in the zone. I release, let go and immediately I am calmed. I was told by Carol, a medium from California, “Be serene in the midst of turmoil”. I have relied on this ever since. It’s Zen. Once I am refreshed I resume my almost breakneck speed of getting things done. A little here … a little there … everything gets attention and I really accomplish things. I call it living spherically.”

This brings me to the point, that at BlogCatalog, members have open discussions, round the clock, and not only are they fun they are meaningful connections on topics we want to chat about and talk through. We learn from each other and we build relationships, which is very important in cyberspace. BlogCatalog offers a beautiful platform to display your blog and we really get to know each other. We explore one another’s work, share our days and feel comfortable. “BlogCatalog is my home away from home … without ever having to leave home.” I’ve been somewhere extraordinary and I didn’t have to travel far. Add your blog today and join in our discussions. If you don’t have a blog, drop by anyway and make some of our bloggers many of your favorites.

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“Conversations With Flapper by tifotter”

I do not now recall how we got on this subject all those years ago, but mother shared this advice early one morning, while we were driving home from one of my gigs. She confided, “In order to be interesting you must first be interested in others”. I chewed this over for a few days and decided to give it a try. I began applying her theory and saw that it produced results and gave me a relaxed entrance into conversations. I found that it was a win-win formula for any person to try.

Should you find you want to truly connect at the next meeting, dinner party, convention, or the grocery store, it’s time to build those people skills. The simplest way to do this is to figure out what they’re interested in, by asking leading questions. Ask ones that require more than a yes or no response. Word your questions in order to have the person explain why they are curious about a certain topic, or the reason they enjoyed a recent sporting event. Inquire whether or not they have a special hobby. Talking about the weather, the work they do, or convincing them to share a story about growing up can break the ice. Take mental notes because the next time you get together you’ll be able to delve even further into the subjects that keep them happy. We learn when we listen. Life is filled with ongoing scenarios and dramas, and since we’re here on the planet for specific reasons, talking about our days offers us a basis for a real connection.

Showing sincere attention to someone is a nice way to say you care about them. It certainly is easier to make new friends. Your outward display of interest in others will enforce the bonds of budding relationships, which can last for years or even decades. So if you feel a little trepidation at your next party or gathering, use these tips and watch it work for you. Relax, smile and enjoy life!

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